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Parents

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Mother and childNowadays people say…

A straight friend of mine said she’d be cool with her daughter, who’s currently aged two, “if she grew up to be gay or anything else,” as it makes no difference to her whatsoever. “And it shouldn’t.”

But, isn’t there always, well let’s say often, a period of adjustment?

My mother expressed surprise, disbelief; she even thought I was joking in her confusion to understand. This was followed by shock, in fact a mighty blow! Whatever future she saw when she first held that baby close to her breast shattered in a moment… Leaving an apocalyptic vacuous residue…

There was a period of grief, for the future that will never be. And then the difficult feelings stirred, when she tried to comprehend what it all meant: being gay, having a gay son, what others would think?

Often time is a healer; often, but not always. Time allows for grieving. It allows for adjustment. Time, allows for love to heal.

I think my mother has tried to understand what having a gay son means, the way she knows best.

Parents too, of gay and bisexual children, are on a journey. They learn to experience their difficult feelings. They may talk to others, or not. They may try to become informed. They try to reason in their heads. They learn to live with it. And over time, it’s kind of OK. It’s not that bad. Bobby, is still Bobby.

Here are two dramatised parents’ perspectives as monologues interspersed together. Ravinder is a father being interviewed for a project. He talks about his daughter. Pooja is in a café with her son. Use headphones for the best quality experience.

Audio monologues: written by Carl Miller; performed by Dharmesh Patel and Rochi Rampal; Directed by Steve Johnstone and Kate Chapman; recorded and engineered by Adam McCready and produced by Bobby Tiwana. Supported using public funding by Arts Council England. Co-commissioned by GEM Arts.

Gay Star News feature!

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See feature by Gay Star News writer Liam Johnson on Beneath the SurfaceBeneath the Surface Two Men Kiss

This activity is supported by Arts Council England. GEM Arts has co-commissioned the script development.  It wouldn’t have been possible without the support of many arts and LGBT sector partners in each city area.

Radio interviews

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SamosasLast week was a busy week with a few radio interviews. BBC Asian Network’s Entertainment News covered the project. It was aired as a 3-min short at the end of the news programme flagging up the project and issue of Asian homosexuality. I hadn’t done a telephone interview in a short while. I was reminded how a live or studio recorded interview is preferable where possible to a telephone recorded interview. A telephone recording when broadcast can sound flatter, and a little lacking in energy and spark. It was great to get the coverage.

I received a text on Friday from a friend:

“Random! Was buying samosas on Dudley Road. Radio was on talking about your project. It’s def out there!”

And I thought that I’d done my job. That’s the great thing about the Asian Network – a national broadcaster… It can get into all sorts of nooks and crannies as it’s listened to by so many people – especially Asians of all backgrounds.

The interview is available to listen to for another 3-days. Gaydio's Office

GaydioOn Friday I had an interview with Gaydio in Manchester – a north West community radio station. Andrew Edwards runs The Sunday Forum on Sunday mornings from 7-9am. This was a studio recorded interview. Andrew was great. He has quite a casual chatty style.

I was delightfully surprised when he asked me to pick a song to play in the middle of the interview. I chose, True Colours by Cyndi Lauper. Firstly it is a landmark song etched into my youth. I was 11 in 1986 when it was released. Cyndi certainly was ‘alternative’ yet accessible during my diet of popular chart music. And the subject felt appropriate: overcoming your inner fear and being who you are, because that’s OK, in fact it is beautiful.

For those that don’t know Cyndi Lauper is an activist for LGBT equality. She co-founded the True Colours Fund which sets out to inspire and engage all, especially straight folk in the advancement of LGBT equality.

Andrew EdwardsAndrew informs me that he played an edit of our interview on ALLFM yesterday too. This gets repeated on Tuesday 12th Febraury at 9am. This can be heard in Manchester or online. 

I recorded another telephone interview; with Kiran Kaur of Sunrise Radio, an Asian Southall-based radio station covering Greater London. The station’s plans to cover LGBT issues during a week of programming to mark LGBT History Month (February) I think very progressive and commendable. It is not yet known when the week will be broadcast but there’s another 17-days left in the month.

Keep the interviews coming…