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Last Sunday’s radio interviews

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Please excuse the brevity of this post. I’m racing out as we speak to a silent retreat.

Following on from The Love That Knows Much Shame, Harjit Sarang, Fiyaz Mughal and I had some radio interviews with BBC Radio channels across England on Sunday 25 May 2014.

I was on BBC Radio Nottingham on the Dhamaka programme with presenter Kaval Vaseer.

Starts 40:55 – 46:55. Available here for another four days from today.

Harjit was on BBC Radio Sheffield on Eastern Air with presenter Waheed Akhtar.

Starts 02:06:05 – 02:10:40. Available here for another four days.

Fiyaz was on BBC Radio Derby with presenter Satvinder Rana.

Starts 01:11:55 – 01:21:10. Available here for another four days.

And another from me on BBC Radio Stoke with presenter Ajmal Hussain.

Starts 01:06:45 – 01:16:30. Available here for another four days from today.

Another from Harjit on BBC Radio Manchester Indus programme with Talat-Farooq Awan.

Starts 01:12:55 – 01:16:45.  Available here for another four days.

And another from Fiyaz on BBC Radio Gloucestershire with Many Masih.

Starts 01:24:15 – 01:29:00. Available here for another four days.

And I’m afraid it was another from me on BBC Radio Northampton with Jona Kotnis.

Starts 01:38:10 – 01:46:46. Available here for another four days.

For Bolly lovers this interview’s preceded by  from Kabhi Khushi Kabhei Gham 01:31:40 – 01:37:30.

Adios!

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Rob’s take on The Love That Knows… panel discussion

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So here we are again. It certainly feels like a while since I last wrote something for this blog and it’s a pleasure to be back. Many of you may remember me as the friendly face of Beneath the Surface which toured last September and is now in the process of being developed into a fully-fledged theatrical piece – but more about that in the coming months I’m sure…

What I’m actually here to write about is a discussion that I was lucky enough to observe at Southbank Centre as part of Alchemy festival which showcases and celebrates art and culture from South Asia. The event was called The Love That Knows Much Shame and was a panel discussion which fundamentally focused on the question “Can you be LGBTQ and South Asian or are the two mutually exclusive?” It was a chance to share experiences as well as a chance to discuss ways of creating a more progressive future.

Now I could go on for reams and reams about the panel and their various areas of expertise. Needless to say, the organiser of this event had managed to select an eclectic mix of people to talk about the issues and how they, both personally and within their organisations, are helping to forge new inroads into creating a world that is prejudice-free for members of the South Asian LGBTQ community and for the queer community generally. For the sake of being brief I will simply list them here with links to their websites. I implore you to check out the good work they are all doing and to see what you can do to help aid our fight to eradicate intolerance. The event was chaired by Razia Aziz. Panel members included Aashi Gahlot, Fiyaz Mughal, Harjit Sarang and, of course, Bobby Tiwana who organised the event and whose blog I am once again hi-jacking!

So what were the main points to come out of the discussion? For any of you who were following the event on Twitter then you may have seen some of the quotes I put up:

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These Tweets might help you to get a flavour of what the event was like. Fundamentally, we were gathered there to make a statement that whether you’re Gay, Straight, White, Asian or any combination in between then you can help stamp out prejudice. I likened the event to the ACT UP meetings in New York in the ‘80s which, in their hay-day, were a hotbed of ideas for tackling the AIDS epidemic. Here we are, 30 years on, across the pond, gathering again to take action against another enemy; an older one and one that’s harder to beat – homophobia. While this event was part of Alchemy, thus technically a South Asian event, I looked around the room and saw such a mix of people that I knew this topic had struck a chord with many people from outside the South Asian community as well.

We all know what it’s like to suffer prejudice at the hands of someone who is supposed to love us; we all know what rejection and intolerance feels like. Yet for many of us in the UK, we have the freedom to live our lives how we want. Especially in the cosmopolitan city centres, identifying as LGBTQ is not something we are scared to do anymore. However, for many others, coming out as LGBTQ is still a battle where the people they are fighting are their own families and friends. There were some truly touching stories shared at this event and some truly horrifying ones too – families disowning children for years and years for the meagre “crime” of loving someone of the same sex. What I found truly heartening was the number of people, from all nationalities, who turned out to support those who still find it hard to be accepted for the people they are.

Looking at the issue from a South Asian perspective though, for many people it does seem that you can identify as LGBTQ and South Asian. There are spaces between the two terms and navigating them can be hard. We touched upon the fact that “coming out” is quite a Western concept and one that does not gel well with the many highly private families in South Asian cultures – “OK so you’re gay but keep quiet about it and don’t let the neighbours know.” Similarly, it can sometimes be quite hard to know which is the best way to go about seeking acceptance – does one do it quietly by just living their life and hoping their visibility will eventually breed acceptance, or do we stand up and politicize ourselves and fight tooth and nail for our rights? We heard from people who argued for both cases and, while no agreement was made, it opened up a debate that needs to be had. How, as a collective, are we going to fight intolerance?

Of course, the issue with these sorts of discussions is that we are only ever able to scratch the surface of the problem, let alone find solutions. Maybe if there were another event like this we could pick up from where we left off and get in deeper? I know I will certainly be on the lookout for similar talks to this one. Ultimately though, the main benefit of an event such as this is that it brings people together. After an event like The Love That Knows Much Shame people don’t feel so alone – “there are others out there who want the same things as I do.” You get a chance to network, take phone numbers, organise meetings. This event was merely the starting point for people to break into smaller groups and carry on the fight in their individual communities. “Activism starts at home” as one of our panel said – let’s hope that this wonderful event has inspired people to go and make that statement true!

Also do check out Harjit Sarang’s pioneering Equal Marriage campaign.

Robert Beck got involved with Bobby’s work after one of his very dear friends was interviewed as part of the research for ‘Beneath the Surface’. Since then he has worked as a Researcher for Bobby, Social Media Adviser, Production Assistant and Guest Blogger. The work means a lot to him and he hopes to stay involved for as long as possible. He doesn’t have a website (although he probably should). Follow him on Twitter @robertjamesbeck 

Panel members announced

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Well, I’m delighted to say that I managed to secure a high calibre panel of people working in and around the topic of being LGBT and South Asian for The Love That Knows Much Shame, on Friday 23 May, 6pm at Southbank Centre, London. Full press release here.

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Sorrel from Friends & Families of Lesbians and Gays, and Aashi.

I was researching South Asian parents and LGBT and came across this lovely image of these two women. That is when I learnt about Aashi Gahlot (on the right) who is truly inspirational. She is Founder and Editor-in-Chief at SHOR, a creative online portal reflecting South Asian LGBTQ lives worldwide; a creative writer, activist, journalist and freelance translator for film and TV.

I learnt about Harjit Sarang, in February last year. She started following me on Twitter after I tweeted a radio excerpt during LGBT History Month. We’ve been trying to meet for some time but it’s not yet happened. She’s a Lawyer specialising in parenting for infertile, gay, and lesbian couples; an LGBT activist and equality campaigner. Her Equal Marriage campaign on Twitter was innovative. It sought equal marriage endorsements from celebrities who have a  larger number of followers, therefore getting a positive message out to a larger pool of people.

A few weeks ago, when Same Sex Marriage became legal, I participated in a telephone radio interview. Fiyaz Mughal OBE FCMI, was on the same programme after me. I was quite impressed with his articulation and understanding of community development and evolution. He is Director of Faith Matters, working to reduce extremism, interfaith and intra-faith tensions. He has a background in community and voluntary sector social policy, lobbying and conflict resolution. He’s also a former Councillor for Haringey and Oxford.

And then there’s humble ol’ me, who got involved in all this through developing a new LGB theatre narrative, born out of research with South Asian communities across England. We’re still chugging and now have a finished script.

And finally, most recently I’ve secured Razia Aziz to facilitate the event, who’s Co-Founder of The Equality Academy. She’s a diversity and equality trainer, coach and consultant; as well as an interfaith minister offering a service to people of all faiths or none.

So at this point, if I might say, I think we have all the ingredients for a potentially high quality event.

Wake up and smell the coffee!

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The weekend was truly momentous with the arrival of Equal Marriage from Saturday 29 March 2014. After observing the progress of EM over the past 18-months I was beginning to feel euphoric in the lead up to Saturday. BBC Midlands Masala, catering for South Asian communities across the West Midlands covered this topic in Sunday’s programme. The irony is: whilst we now have Equal Marriage in England and Wales most (British) South Asians still feel unable to come out to their parents and families. How do we get to a better tomorrow?

The programme is presented by Ray Khan sitting in for Arshia Riaz and is available online until next Sunday. The first hour has the most coverage on the subject. I’m on from 14:25 – 23:45.

We have some listeners reaction to Equal Marriage from 28:39 – 29:46.

Fiyaz Mughal, Director of Faith Matters joins from 30:05 – 34:37.  He makes some very valid points on human behaviour being dynamic and not static and envisions more acceptance over the next two decades.

Satbir, an articulate voice, a teacher of a Sikh background is on from 34:48 – 37:28.

And from 37:38 – 41:55 a female caller talks about her Muslim Pakistani friend forced into an arranged marriage.

In all, a progressive programme on Equal Marriage and its relevance to South Asian communities in England and Wales. Well done BBC! Listen to the programme here.  But we have so much more to do.

The final point which I didn’t make in the programme is: as fellow humans we have a responsibility to support our family members, friends and communities to come to terms with themselves, to learn to accept themselves, to become who they (really) are by being true to themselves… to release the unique bright spark that we all are.